How to Break Free from Repressed Emotions

You are out there living life to the fullest and enjoying every passing moment. It seems as though you are floating on cloud nine and there’s nothing that’s going to bring you down. Then, it happens. An event takes place that reminds you of something that had a negative impact on your emotional state. You’re doing everything you can to stay positive. You know that you deal with the problem now, you’re digging up some emotions you’ve been burying for years.

That’s when life presents you with two different choices. You can tackle that emotional trauma, or you can repress it and hope it goes away. While suppressing your thoughts and feelings may be effective for a while, it only means that the problem is going to come back around at some point, and chances are, it’s going to be a lot worse. Those repressed emotions never completely go away until you do something with them. By breaking free from those situations that you’ve buried for so many weeks, months, or even years, you’ll be amazed at how much more positive you can live out each day once again.

How to Recognize Repressed Emotions Symptoms

Most often, repressed emotions have been that way for decades or since childhood. You may have been part of a tragic accident or some other traumatic experience. There may have even been counseling or some other form of therapy involved to help you in dealing with the issue. That doesn’t always mean that it has been completely cleared up, however.

As a child, you tend to do what adults tell you to. At some point, your parents or another guidance figure talked to you about how you should be feeling better, even if you aren’t. You go along with it because you think that’s how you’re supposed to react. Now, as an adult, those repressed emotions are coming back with a vengeance. They can show up unannounced in a vast number of ways. Some of the symptoms associated with repressed emotions include:

  • Insomnia or trouble sleeping
  • Inability to form tight relationships
  • Struggle with intimacy
  • Little to no emotion leading to overreactions
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Low self-esteem
  • Weight problems
  • Poor immune system
  • Physical pain

Most of these symptoms you can shrug off. That’s another common occurrence with those that are dealing with repressed emotions. He or she, or you, may feel all the time that “I’m fine,” even though you aren’t fine at all. You’re a people pleaser; someone that doesn’t like to start too many problems for others even if it means more pain for you. You certainly don’t want all the attention on you either.

Physical Manifestation of Emotional Pain

While each symptom alone can be challenging to deal with, the one of physical pain that is caused by repressed emotions has the highest probability of affecting your everyday life. It is no secret that emotional issues can lead to physical health problems. Throughout the world, up to 80% of Americans will deal with back issues at some point in their lives. One emotional reason for lower back pain is stress, and stress can very easily come from trying to repress your feelings.

While you are busy holding in what you are afraid of hurting you, your body is doing whatever it can to protect you. Your muscles tense up involuntarily, and that can lead to various painful symptoms including:

  • Headaches
  • Neck Pain
  • Back Aches
  • Wrist Pain
  • Knee Problems
  • Hip Discomforts

When your emotional pain has reached a point where it’s causing you physical pain, it’s time to get treatment. The problem isn’t going to go away on its own. It’s only going to get worse the longer you try to suppress your emotions from childhood or any other traumatic emotional experience from years gone by.

How to Stop Repressing Feelings and Get Back on the Right Track

You want to be out there living your best life. That may be why you decided to repress your feelings in the first place. Now in your adult years, you don’t want to have to bring up something that happened so long ago. What good is it going to do? You are worried that you are only going to feel pain, sadness, and anger, and nobody wants to feel those emotions. However, it’s how you are going to be able to live your true best life and not one with buried emotions.

There are many different treatment options when it comes to getting your life back. There is a mind and body connection that has been proven time and time again through various studies and research dating back as far as the 1800s. When you clear your mind, your physical health will follow and improve as well.

If you are someone who often finds yourself overreacting to situations, getting hurt easily, or you have problems with socializing, it is time to seek out therapy with a professional. Those emotions need to be let out in a safe and controlled environment with someone who has the tools and knowledge to help you work through them. There are four steps that everyone must go through to full release repressed emotions.

  • Awareness
  • Acceptance
  • Allowance
  • Release

How you actively get through these will be determined on which type of treatment option you and your team of healthcare professionals decide is best for you. You can opt for:

  • Sound therapy
  • Massage
  • Yoga
  • Chiropractic treatments
  • Medication

These days, most people are opting for the least invasive form of treatment as to avoid other side effects from causing issues in their lives. You can visit a chiropractic doctor to discuss your physical problems after attending a psychological appointment if you and your doctor determine that the release of your muscle tension will be better for your body and mind connection.

Free at Last

The amount of weight that gets lifted off of your shoulders after you find an effective treatment plan for your repressed emotions is going to be the most significant accomplishment you ever feel up to that point in your life.

Your relationships will improve, you’ll be better capable of dealing with problems when they arise, and your overall health and well-being will progress drastically. After all of these years, it’s time to take your problems and lay them all out on the table. The freedom you feel will make you wish you would have done it a lot sooner.

Dr. Brent Wells, a graduate from the University of Nevada and Western States Chiropractic College opened his office, Better Health Chiropractic & Physical Rehab in 1998 with one goal in mind; helping his patients live a better a lifestyle. He is passionate about seeing an overall improvement in health and well-being and works compassionately with each client to achieve their wellness goals through chiropractic care. The primary focus is to create a completely united body functioning so that every patient can be the best version of themselves physically, mentally, and emotionally with routine care.

Image courtesy of Kinga Cichewicz.

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The Challenge with Being a Lighthouse

A few months ago, a friend and former client came to me and shared that she wanted to move forward in her work in a bigger way, she wanted to share her inconvenient truths with the world, and she wanted to shine a light on the things that she felt mattered.

But every time she set out to speak up, strange things would happen…
…exhaustion
…numbness
…confusion
…distraction
…swirling fear
…hives (no joke!)

This is so common. In conversations with the women I work with, one of the greatest challenges we face in our leadership (regardless of how much “success” we’ve seen), are issues around being seen.

And it makes perfect sense. Consider our conditioning…

PERSONAL:
Our own histories around shining and being seen, and all of the ways we’ve felt celebrated, judged, objectified, threatened.

ANCESTRAL:
The experiences of our relatives, both living and deceased, the ways they were revered and persecuted, and how free they were to be free.

CULTURAL:
The traditions, rules, and stories of our culture and religion, and how much they make space for the honoring, rising, and celebration of all people.

SOCIETAL:
The ways that political rhetoric, the media, laws, systems, and institutions impact the honoring, rising, and celebration of all people.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, on some level, we carry these narratives in our cells. Like a rose that turns blue when blue dye is added to its water (but of course, remains a rose)…

Our expression is colored by the narratives that run through our lives and lineages.

And many of these [conscious or unconscious] narratives tell us that shining is dangerous, so we keep quiet. Or, if we express ourselves, we often do it with an underlying tension or fear. Either way, all of our pet “protection” mechanisms can kick in (exhaustion, numbness, confusion, distraction, etc.)

This is the challenge with being a lighthouse.

The purpose of a lighthouse is to serve as a navigational aid to ships, to help them find their way. And isn’t this what we do in our leadership? Whether we’re negotiating with a vendor, making a request of an employee, writing website copy, or sharing something we believe on social media, we’re shining a light on what we sense will help things flow in the most aligned way possible.

Shining is a vulnerable act.

When the lighthouse shines its light, though, it’s not saying “Hey, look at me! Aren’t I majestic, and important and beautiful?!”

It’s saying “Hey, I’m here to work with you to keep things flowing.”

It’s not about the lighthouse, it’s about the light.

A lighthouse’s purpose is not to be seen, but it must be willing to be seen. @AskNisha (Click to Tweet!)

Remembering this can help us find the willingness to move through all the things that surface when we shine…
…exhaustion
…numbness
…confusion
…distraction
…swirling fear
…yes, even hives

These things that obscure the light prevent us from standing in our leadership:

Moving forward in our work in a bigger way,
Sharing our truths with the world,
Shining a light on the things that matter to us.

These are the things that I help women move through, so they can feel free to shine in their lives and work.

  • Uncovering and embracing your unique magic: the essence of who you are, and your inborn gifts and talents.
  • Expanding your leadership, by coming into right relationship with the soul of leadership, embodying your unique magic, fully integrating your gifts into your work, and developing the leadership qualities necessary to face the joys and challenges of rising in our lives and work.
  • Deepening your sense of freedom, so you feel secure within yourself and your gifts, untethered by unhealthy patterns, and untangled from limiting cultural/ancestral/familial/personal narratives that keep us from knowing our worth, and embracing our path.
  • Carving your unique path, because no person or business needs the same as another, so the choices you make – from where to live to how to market your offerings – need to align with your vision, values, soul’s truth, and desires.
  • Developing your offerings, and ensuring that they align with your unique magic, a thriving and sustainable way of life for yourself and your family, and the way you feel called to serve.
  • Clarifying your message, and how to express it through your writing in a way that reaches your people.
  • Clarifying the offshoots of your message: website name, tagline, program names, etc.
  • Crafting a clear game plan for the things that you’ve been feeling stuck around, both personally and in your business.
  • Finding healthy ways to relate: to food, your body, your mother, your partner, money, your business…you name it.

I want you to know that I fundamentally believe that each of us has a light that this world this world could benefit from seeing. It’s not about us being seen, so much as it’s about the contribution to the collective that comes from ALL of us being in our full, radiant self-expression.

We’re all innately brilliant.
We’re all innately beautiful.
We all innately care.
And all of that matters.

Nisha Moodley is a Women’s Leadership Coach and the creator of Fierce Fabulous Free, The Freedom Mastermind & The Virtual Sisterhood. Inspired by the belief that the world will be set free by women who are free & sisterhood is key to a woman’s freedom, Nisha creates communities of ambitious women to support them in redesigning their lives & businesses. Find her online at NishaMoodley.com and download her free Take Flight Action Guide to explore the next expansion of your freedom at TakeFlightActionGuide.com. You can follow Nisha on Twitter or FB.

Image courtesy of Olga Bast.

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